Sunday, February 21, 2010

A quieter place

I think maybe I need a quieter place to write for awhile, and this seems to be as good a place as any. My life with my daughter is amazing. We didn't really do anything super special for Chinese New Year, but we did go to dinner. I also got the kids Chinese red envelopes this year and orange suckers. It was also V-day (which I hate), so I got everyone cards.

It's been sort of a long winter here, due to ALL the snow, but we're managing pretty well. Lil M and T and I had some fun playing around with the camera last night. I got a couple of really cute ones with the two of them. Lil M really likes having T around and T seems to enjoy Lil M. Lil M likes to mimic T, which is mostly adorable (could be scary, but so far so good).

Anyway, let's see, Lil M will be 3.5 on the 27th. I can't believe she's been with me for almost 3 years (in june, but still). It's just crazy how fast time has flown. I mean, super fast!! She's gone almost 4 weeks being dry overnights. She has a great vocabulary for a 3YO, as well as counting to 20 and her ABC's... she "gets" things (comprehends) and is just really the sweetest spirit I know. I'm so utterly blessed to be called her Mommy, I can't even being to verbalize it.

Last month when our friend MK2 turned 4, Lil M swam by herself (with her backpack float and the big dumbell float), and was so proud of herself she talked about it for at least two weeks. She wants to go swimming again. I'm so proud of her. I think I really want to get her into swim lessons again, soon. I also want to get her into tumbling/gymnastics. I haven't figured out when they can learn piano, but I want her to take lessons. So... gotta get some money saved so I can let her do all this, huh?!

I've been considering a 2nd adoption for awhile now. I am trying to get finances under control and will hopefully be able to make a real decision by the summer. The way things change in that area, what I read even 3 months ago might be old information today. I will have T until the fall sometime, maybe longer depending on if she wants to stay or not.

I haven't really been very social this past two months, and I feel bad about because I miss my friends and family. The weather has been a huge issue this winter. We've gotten record level snowfall and been stuck at home a lot. I pray the worst of this winter is over, though, 'cause I'm ready to get out again.

There were lots of things I wanted to write about Lil M and her progress even, say, over the past 6 months... Suffice to say, she's still amazing and still the love of my life.



  1. I didn't know Mia was a swimmer. Sounds like she's a little dolphin in the water! I'll bet she could beat me in doing laps around my swimming pool (I never use it).

    I think we all know how much you love Mia and how special she is in your life. If a little brother/ sister comes along for her, that would be fantastic:0) I think I'm like you in the sense that I like BIG families, especially with lots of wee-ones running around.

    You hate Valentines Day? Why??? It's a great quasi-holiday! Many couple out there send each other flowers and chocolates and cards and go on trips and propose marriage. So it can't be all that bad. I even do a post on love songs when the holiday approaches (no country, sorry). It does feel weird, though, to not be dating anyone this year. I still say it's a great holiday at least for bon-bon overload.

    I'm deleting my comments in 48 hours:)

  2. now, why would you delete your comments in 48 hours?

    well, let's see. i tried to go on a date this year. albeit, with 3 kids along... so it didn't really feel like a date. and he has since stopped wanting to talk to me. valentine's day puts too much pressure on people to be in love. maybe someday that'll happen for me... but until then, i'll be happy with my little family.

    why did you delete your other comment? was it something i said?

  3. Just kidding. about the deleting my comments. Hence the smiley face ending the sentence. I guess I forgot to put the nose on my silly smiley face.

    I completely respect your views on V-Day. You’re not the only one who feels that way nor is there anything wrong with feeling the way you do. I’m a little different, however. The only time I feel a vacuity is when I’m hanging around the same knuckleheads who swore to me they would never marry, and are now working on their second child. When I see them with their wives/ girlfriends, I hear a little voice inside me say: “You want that too!” However, I’m not lonely and neither are you. You have Mia, who will give you a million kisses just for the heck of it! No man can ever come close to acquiring the importance she has in your life. All will happen in due time, you just have to give Mr. Right enough time to reach you.

    This time I promise I will delete NOTHING. But this message will self-destruct right after you read it:0)

  4. ok, whew. thought maybe it was a new thing you were doing! lol. i hear ya on the family thing.

    yes, i do have Mia!! thank God!! that was the best decision i ever made. :D

    what do you think of the new blog? i'm sort of feeling sad about maybe stopping the other one, but you know i've been contemplating it for awhile... but i wanted to see what would happen if i started writing on this one in earnest...

    haha... self destruction beginning in 5 seconds...

  5. "why did you delete your other comment? was it something i said?"

    NO. It was more like something I wrote. I went back to read them and I noticed that I had inadvertently omitted the obvious signs that some of what I wrote was meant as harmless humor. I didn't want you to take it the wrong way and feel offended. But I guess by now you know me too well and you know when I'm serious and when I'm being a dip:0)

  6. I like your blog(s)! As far as leaving the other one for this one, I hope it's not because of your x-brother-in-law. I was hoping he'd come to his senses and do what is best for his son, which includes abandoning any intentions of harassing other people. But you do have to protect yourself and your nephew, so if this means switching blogs for a while, then do so and don't be saddened by it. The other blog will still be there when you are ready to use it. Perhaps you can use this blog to post things you couldn't post on the other one.

    I will say this in reference to your former brother-in-law, I definitely believe in Karma.

  7. i think you're right. this will at least be a safer place to write some stuff i'd like to write, i think. i have been feeling constrained.